Alright, girl. Let’s talk. If you’re tired of feeling like an exhausted, over-caffeinated disaster who can’t figure out why happiness is avoiding you like a toxic ex, then listen up. Because the problem isn’t life, the universe, or Mercury retrograde, it’s probably you. Yep, I said it.
But don’t worry, I got you. Here are seven things you need to STOP doing ASAP if you actually want to feel that elusive thing called happiness.
1. Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Scream NO
Ever found yourself at a party you never wanted to attend, fake-smiling at Karen’s engagement story (for the fifth time) while contemplating an escape route? Girl, same.
Saying “yes” to things you hate is like willingly jumping into a pool of lava. Just stop. Learn the magic of a polite-but-firm “No, thank you.” It will save your soul.
Action Step:
Practice saying no in the mirror. Seriously. It feels weird at first, but you’ll thank me later when you’re chilling in your pajamas instead of attending another pointless brunch.
2. Stop Scrolling Through Social Media Like It’s Oxygen
Ah, the endless black hole of Instagram, where everyone’s life looks better than yours. Spoiler alert: It’s fake. Nobody’s actually that happy, that rich, or that productive. They’re just really good at angles and filters.
Action Step:
Take a social media detox for a weekend. If you start twitching from withdrawal, go outside. Touch some grass. Read a book. Remember real life? It still exists.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself to That Random Influencer Who Lives in Bali
Why are you comparing your real life to someone whose job is literally to look perfect online? You’re out here trying to survive a 9-to-5, and she’s getting paid to sip coconut water on a beach. Different lives, babe. Different realities.
Action Step:
Unfollow anyone who makes you feel like garbage. Fill your feed with people who inspire you, not ones who make you spiral into self-doubt.
4. Stop Ignoring Red Flags Because “But I Love Him”
Sis. If he only texts you at midnight, treats you like an option, and still can’t spell “your” correctly, he is not your soulmate.
Happiness does not live in a situationship. Let him go. Block him. Move on. Future you will want to hug you for this.
Action Step:
Make a list of non-negotiables for relationships. And actually stick to them.
5. Stop Overthinking Every Tiny Decision
Did you spend 45 minutes deciding whether to text back “Haha” or “Lol”? Congratulations, you just wasted time you’ll never get back.
Action Step:
Start making decisions in 5 seconds or less. If it’s not life-altering, just pick something and move on. You’ll be shocked at how freeing it is.
6. Stop Hoarding Toxic Friendships Out of Nostalgia
Yes, you’ve known her since middle school. No, that doesn’t mean she gets to suck the life out of you with her constant drama. Some friendships expire, and that’s okay.
Action Step:
Audit your friendships. If someone only drains you, distances you, or disrespects you, it’s time to re-evaluate their place in your life.
7. Stop Waiting for Happiness to Just Magically Happen
Here’s the tea: Happiness isn’t something that falls into your lap. It’s something you create. So if you keep waiting for the perfect job, the perfect body, or the perfect relationship to make you happy, you’ll be waiting forever.
Action Step:
Start doing small things every day that bring you joy. Dance in your kitchen. Buy yourself flowers. Romanticize the heck out of your life.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need to be perfect to be happy. You just need to stop self-sabotaging and start making better choices. Now go be the thriving queen you were meant to be.
And if you found this helpful, send it to that one friend who needs to hear it. You know the one.
