We all have that one friend, the one who was once our ride-or-die but now feels more like a soul-sucking dementor (yes, Harry Potter reference, because, priorities). If hanging out with them feels like an emotional boot camp rather than a brunch full of belly laughs, it might be time to let go.
And let’s be real, cutting ties isn’t easy. But girl, your peace is priceless. So, if you see yourself in the signs below, consider this your intervention.
1. You Feel Drained, Not Empowered
Ever noticed how you start the day feeling like a queen but end it feeling like a peasant after talking to them? If their energy is more toxic than expired dairy, it’s a red flag.
They dismiss your achievements, make your problems seem small, and somehow always make everything about them. Newsflash: friendship should fill your cup, not drain it.
What to do: Start setting boundaries. Say “no” without guilt. And if they flip out? That’s your confirmation, they were never your real friend. Byeee.
2. You’re Always Walking on Eggshells
Friendship should be easy, not feel like you’re defusing a bomb. If you’re constantly second-guessing your words or feeling like one wrong move will trigger their inner Godzilla, this is not normal, sis.
If someone truly cares, they’ll let you be your messy, weird, unfiltered self, without making you feel like you need a PhD in ‘How to Not Offend My Toxic Friend.’
What to do: Observe how you feel around them. Anxious? Stressed? Like you need therapy after every interaction? If yes, it’s time to slide out of this friendship like a smooth criminal.
3. They Disappear When You Need Them (But Expect You to Drop Everything for Them)
Oh, so they only text when they need something? But when you need support, they’re MIA like your gym motivation on a Monday?
Friendship isn’t a one-way street, and you shouldn’t have to audition for their attention. If you’re always there for them but get ghosted when you need even a fraction of that support, they’re not your friend, they’re an emotional leech.
What to do: Test it. Stop reaching out first. See if they make an effort. If they don’t? Congrats, you just saved yourself from being an unpaid emotional laborer.
4. They Make You Feel Small
Your wins should be celebrated, not met with shade, side-eye, or sudden ‘Oh, that’s cool but look what happened to me’ moments. If they constantly minimize your success, throw backhanded compliments, or act like you’re ‘too much,’ they’re projecting their own insecurities onto you.
What to do: Surround yourself with hype queens, not energy vampires. Real friends clap for you like their rent depends on it.
5. You Keep Making Excuses for Their Behavior
“If I just explain it differently, they’ll change.”
“If I just ignore it, maybe it’ll stop.”
Nope. Toxic is toxic. And if you’ve been justifying their bad behavior more than you justify your late-night online shopping, that’s your sign.
What to do: Ask yourself, would you accept this behavior in a relationship? If the answer is ‘HECK NO,’ then why tolerate it in a friendship?
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Have you ever had to let go of a toxic friend? How did you do it? Drop your story in the comments! Let’s support each other and build a community of strong, empowered queens.
