Have you ever felt like your so-called BFF is low-key plotting your downfall? Maybe she smiles to your face but subtly throws shade when you’re not looking? If so, girl, you might be dealing with a jealous friend, and that’s more dangerous than a frenemy with a megaphone.
But don’t panic! I’ve got your back. Here are 12 undeniable signs that your “friend” is secretly green with envy, and how to handle it like a queen.
1. She Downplays Your Achievements
You just got promoted? “Oh, that’s cool, I guess. But my cousin’s boyfriend’s sister got the same thing years ago.”
Translation: She can’t handle your glow-up.
What to do? Flaunt your success anyway! You worked hard for it, and her validation isn’t required.
2. She Throws Backhanded Compliments
“Wow, you actually look really pretty today!” or “I love how you don’t care what people think!”
Excuse me, what?!
What to do? Call her out with a sweet but deadly “Aww, thanks! You always know how to make things sound… interesting!”
3. She Copies You… But Denies It
New hairstyle? She gets it too. That cute dress? Suddenly in her wardrobe. Your go-to coffee order? Now she “always” drank it first. But if you mention it? “Ugh, as if!”
What to do? Take it as a compliment, babe! But if it starts getting creepy, remind her you are the trendsetter.
4. She’s MIA When You’re Winning
When you were crying over your ex? She was there. But when you landed your dream job? Radio silence.
What to do? Notice who claps when you win, and keep them closer than those who disappear.
5. She Competes With You (Even When It’s Dumb)
You: “I finally started working out again!” Her: “Oh, I already lost 10 pounds last month. No big deal.”
Girl, it’s not the Olympics.
What to do? Laugh it off and remind yourself: her insecurities are not your problem.
6. She Gossips About You (But Acts Innocent)
If “people are saying…” mysteriously turns into “Oh no, I would never say that!”, your so-called bestie might be the real culprit.
What to do? Stop trusting her with your secrets, pronto.
7. She Gaslights You
“You’re being too sensitive! I was just joking!”
No, girl, she just doesn’t want to own up to being toxic.
What to do? Trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is.
8. She Loves Seeing You Struggle
Suddenly, she’s extra nice when you’re crying over a breakup but “too busy” when you’re glowing up. Weird, right?
What to do? Surround yourself with people who uplift you, not ones who secretly enjoy your misery.
9. She Tries to Embarrass You in Public
If she “accidentally” brings up your most embarrassing moment in front of a group, it’s not an accident.
What to do? Shut it down with a confident “Wow, love how you remember every detail of my life!”
10. She Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries
If she insists on hanging out even when you need space, or worse, gets mad when you say no, huge red flag!
What to do? Say “no” firmly and don’t explain yourself. Real friends respect boundaries.
11. She Secretly Competes for Attention
Ever notice how when you’re vibing with a group, she suddenly has to be the loudest in the room?
What to do? Let her have the spotlight, while you thrive effortlessly.
12. She Low-Key Hates Your Confidence
A jealous friend can’t stand when you love yourself. She’ll throw subtle jabs to bring you down.
NEWSFLASH: No one has time for that!
What to do? Keep glowing, keep winning, and leave the negativity behind.
So What’s the Next Step?
If you recognize these signs in your so-called “friend,” it’s time to protect your energy and level up your circle. Surround yourself with real friends who hype you up instead of tearing you down.
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Which sign do you recognize the most? Drop a comment below! And don’t forget to share this with a friend who needs to hear it.
