Look, I get it. You’re staring at your phone like it holds the secrets of the universe, waiting for that ONE text. The one that’ll never come. Or worse, the dreaded “haha” reply that makes you question your entire existence. But girl, it’s time to wake up. He (or she, or they) doesn’t care. And guess what? That’s their loss.
But let’s be real, moving on is hard. If it were easy, rom-coms wouldn’t exist. So, let’s cut the drama (okay, keep a little) and get into six ways to stop obsessing over someone who doesn’t even THINK about you, because your time and energy are way too precious for this nonsense.
1. Accept the Brutal Truth: They Are Not Thinking About You
You know how you replay every interaction like it’s the season finale of your life? Yeah, they’re not doing that. They’re out here living their best (or mediocre) life, completely unbothered.
And here’s the kicker: Even if they do think about you, it’s not in the way you want. Maybe they like the attention, maybe they’re just being nice, or maybe, brace yourself, they actually don’t care.
Once you accept this, the healing begins. Rip off the fantasy band-aid and let reality breathe.
2. Block, Mute, Unfollow, Digitally and Emotionally
I know what you’re thinking: But what if they notice I unfollowed them? Oh sweetie, they won’t. And even if they do, SO WHAT?
Seeing their posts, their stories, their accidental-like on someone else’s thirst trap? That’s torture. Do yourself a favor, block, mute, and cleanse your feed. Out of sight, out of mind. And if the temptation is strong? Hand your phone to a trusted friend and let them do the dirty work.
(And no, don’t secretly check from your burner account. We see you.)
3. Romanticize Yourself Instead
You’ve spent SO much time putting them on a pedestal, analyzing every text like you’re solving a crime. What if, wild thought, you put that energy into yourself instead?
Take yourself on dates. Buy yourself flowers. Blast a playlist that screams “I am the main character”. Treat yourself like the queen you are because waiting for someone to love you the way you deserve is a waste of time.
Pro tip: The more you invest in yourself, the less you care about someone who doesn’t invest in you.
4. Remember Their Flaws (Because They’re Not Perfect)
Oh, you thought they were a Greek god? Let me remind you:
- They texted “your” instead of “you’re.”
- Their music taste is… questionable.
- They ghosted you like a coward instead of communicating like an adult.
- THEY DID NOT CHOOSE YOU (and that alone is enough).
Your brain is doing this annoying thing where it only remembers the good times. Time to balance the scales. Make a list of all their flaws (yes, even the petty ones) and read it when nostalgia hits.
5. Do Something That Distracts You (Preferably Something That Makes You Feel Hot)
Look, moping is allowed, but only for a limited time. Then? You get up and do something that makes you feel unstoppable.
Hit the gym, take a dance class, get that glow-up, change your hair, anything that makes you feel like the version of yourself that doesn’t waste time on emotionally unavailable people.
And let’s be real: There’s no better revenge than looking so good they regret everything.
6. Remind Yourself That You Are the Prize
At the end of the day, you are IT. The whole package. The full-course meal. The plot twist.
So why waste another second on someone who treats you like an afterthought? The moment you stop obsessing is the moment you reclaim your power. And trust me, the right person will never make you feel like you have to beg for their attention.
Final Thoughts (Because You Needed This Today)
Moving on isn’t easy, but obsessing over someone who doesn’t care is exhausting. And you? You have better things to do.
So take a deep breath, pick yourself up, and go be fabulous. The best revenge is happiness, confidence, and knowing your worth.
Now, drop their name from your brain, put on your favorite song, and let’s move forward like the baddie you were born to be.
