You open Instagram. There she is, the girl with the perfect hair, the dreamy boyfriend, and a vacation in Bali while you’re at home eating cereal in your pajamas. Suddenly, your life feels like a sad indie movie, and you’re the underpaid extra.
Comparison is the fastest way to feel like absolute trash. But don’t worry, sis! We’re about to fix that. Here are six savage ways to stop comparing yourself to others right now (before your self-esteem takes another nosedive).
1. Realize That Social Media is Basically Photoshop on Steroids
Ever notice how people only post their best moments? No one is showing their mental breakdowns, bad hair days, or that weird rash they’re too scared to Google.
The Reality Check:
- That girl’s ‘perfect body’? Angles, filters, and 200 deleted pictures.
- That ‘couple goals’ post? Probably followed by a screaming match over pizza toppings.
- That luxurious vacation? Sponsored by a credit card they’ll regret later.
What To Do: Unfollow anyone who makes you feel bad about your life. Follow more dog accounts instead. Dogs never flex on you.
2. Comparison is a Game You Can’t Win (So Stop Playing)
The thing about comparing yourself to others is there’s always someone ‘better’, prettier, smarter, richer. It’s like running a race with no finish line. Exhausting and pointless.
The Reality Check:
Imagine if Beyoncé compared herself to Rihanna. Would that make sense? NO. Because they’re both icons, just in different ways.
What To Do: Focus on your own glow-up instead of envying someone else’s. Your competition? The person you were yesterday.
3. Your Worth is Not Measured by Likes, Follows, or Designer Bags
Imagine aliens landed on Earth and saw humans freaking out over digital hearts on a screen. They’d be like, “Y’all okay??”
The Reality Check:
Likes and follows do not define your value. If they did, would your mom love you less because you only got 12 likes on your selfie? NO.
What To Do: Stop giving social media so much power. Spend more time doing things that actually make you happy, like binge-watching Netflix without guilt.
4. Turn Jealousy into Motivation (Instead of a Pity Party)
Let’s say you’re jealous of someone’s success. Instead of sulking, use that as fuel. If she can do it, why can’t you?
The Reality Check:
- Someone got their dream job? Ask them how they did it.
- Someone looks stunning? Maybe they just drink more water (or have a good dermatologist, either way, find out!).
- Someone is traveling the world? Time to start saving up, sis!
What To Do: Next time you feel jealous, turn it into inspiration. Take notes instead of tearing yourself down.
5. Romanticizing Your Own Life is the Ultimate Power Move
Why are you obsessed with her life when yours could be just as amazing? You’re the main character, not the background extra.
The Reality Check:
You don’t need an aesthetic apartment in NYC or a Chanel bag to feel important. Your morning coffee, a cozy book, and even laughing with your bestie are just as worthy of being celebrated.
What To Do: Start romanticizing your own life. Light a candle, play music, and remind yourself that you’re THAT girl.
6. Remember: Nobody Actually Knows What They’re Doing
Plot twist: Everyone is winging it. Even that girl you envy? She has her own insecurities, trust issues, and existential crises.
The Reality Check:
The CEO of a company? Probably Googled “how to be a boss” at some point. The influencer with a ‘perfect’ life? Probably cried over a pimple last night.
What To Do: Next time you compare yourself to someone, remind yourself that they’re just as lost as you. No one has it all figured out. Not even Oprah.
The Final Mic Drop
Life’s too short to waste time feeling less than because of someone else’s highlight reel. The only person you need to impress is yourself.
So, go do something fabulous today, for YOU. And if comparison ever creeps back in, just remember: You’re already enough. Always have been. Always will be.
Which tip hit home for you the most? Drop a comment below and let’s hype each other up!
