Girl, let’s be honest, you’re carrying emotional wounds like they’re designer handbags. Some are tiny clutches (manageable but annoying), and some are the size of an overstuffed tote (so heavy they make your back hurt). But no one sees them, right? You keep your game face on, tell everyone you’re “fine” (with an extra-wide, slightly psychotic smile), and continue scrolling through social media like a champ.
But deep down, you know. And I know. So, let’s drop the act. Here are six real ways to heal those wounds you pretend don’t exist. No fluff, no toxic positivity, just real talk.
1. Stop Gaslighting Yourself (Yes, You Do That)
Ever tell yourself, “It wasn’t that bad” or “Maybe I’m overreacting”? Girl, no. If it hurt you, it hurt you. Period. Your pain is valid, even if no one else understands it.
What to do instead? Start validating your own emotions. Write down what happened, how it made you feel, and, most importantly, remind yourself that your feelings are real. You don’t need permission to feel hurt.
2. Cry It Out, But Make It Fashion
Listen, if you haven’t had a full-blown ugly cry in the shower, are you even healing? Sometimes, you just need to let it all out. But instead of sobbing in the dark like a tragic movie character, make it an event.
How? Put on a sad playlist, grab your comfiest blanket, and let those tears flow. It’s not weak, it’s detoxing. And if someone asks why your eyes are red, just say it’s allergies. Boom. Instant street cred.
3. Revenge Glow-Up (But Not The Kind You Think)
No, I’m not telling you to cut bangs or stalk your ex’s Instagram. (We’ve all been there, and it never ends well.) Instead, glow up for yourself. Healing is the best revenge.
Try this: Take care of your body (no, coffee doesn’t count as breakfast), start a new hobby, or finally unfollow those people who secretly make you feel like trash. Becoming the best version of yourself isn’t just a flex, it’s self-care.
4. Talk to Someone (And No, Not Just Your Cat)
I get it. Opening up feels like stepping on a Lego, painful and unnecessary. But bottling things up? That’s a ticking time bomb.
What to do? Find a safe person (a therapist, a best friend, a journal) and spill it. Even if it’s messy, even if you cry mid-sentence, just get it out. Keeping pain inside only gives it more power over you.
5. Rewrite the Story (Because You’re The Main Character)
Sometimes, we get stuck in a victim narrative. “Why did this happen to me?” “I’ll never be happy again.” Girl, no. You are not a side character in someone else’s story. You are the heroine, and you get to decide how this chapter ends.
Challenge yourself: Take that painful experience and rewrite it in a way that makes you stronger. What did it teach you? How did it help you grow? Flip the script. You’re not just surviving, you’re thriving.
6. Give Yourself Permission to Be Happy Again
Here’s a truth bomb: You don’t have to earn happiness. You don’t have to wait until you’re “fully healed” or “have it all figured out.” Spoiler alert: no one ever does.
Start now: Romanticize your life in the smallest ways. Buy yourself flowers, dance in your room like you’re in a music video, eat that dessert without guilt. Healing isn’t just about fixing pain, it’s about making room for joy.
Final Thoughts: You Got This, Babe
Healing is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright exhausting. But guess what? You’re doing it. Every time you choose yourself, every time you take a tiny step forward, you’re winning.
So, take a deep breath, give yourself a break, and remember: you’re not broken. You’re becoming. And that, my friend, is beautiful.
