Look, let’s be real. Life can feel like an absolute dumpster fire sometimes. Your situationship isn’t texting back, your bank account is doing an Olympic-level limbo, and your toxic ex just posted a mysteriously happy-looking photo with someone new. (Rude.)
Meanwhile, there are these magical creatures, let’s call them “happy people”, who seem to be walking around with some kind of secret cheat code to life. They don’t get fazed by drama, they radiate joy like a human-sized ring light, and worst of all? They make it look EASY.
So what do these happy people do differently? And more importantly, how can we shamelessly copy them? Buckle up, because I’m about to spill the tea on their four biggest secrets.
1. They Don’t Chase, They Attract (AKA, They Refuse to Be Desperate)
Ever notice how the happiest people aren’t out here begging for love, attention, or validation? That’s because they have mastered the art of being unbothered.
The Struggle:
You text first. Always. You double-text. You send memes to fill the awkward silence. You see them online but mysteriously getting no replies. (RIP your dignity.)
The Happy People Move:
Happy people operate on main character energy. They don’t chase; they choose. They focus on their own glow-up, and suddenly, the right people start gravitating towards them. If someone wants to leave? BYE. No chasing, no convincing. They trust that the right people will stay.
How to Copy It:
- Start romanticizing YOUR life. Go on solo coffee dates, pick up a hobby, and do things that make you excited to wake up.
- Be busy being amazing instead of anxiously waiting for a text.
- Remember: People sense desperation like sharks smell blood. Be the ocean, not the prey.
2. They Say “No” Without a 3-Hour Explanation
If you’re the kind of person who agrees to things just to avoid disappointing people, congratulations, you’re an unpaid emotional support human.
The Struggle:
You say yes to plans you immediately regret. You feel guilty setting boundaries. You’re burnt out but still showing up to brunch with people you don’t even like that much.
The Happy People Move:
Happy people know that every “yes” to something they don’t want is a “no” to their own peace. They say no confidently, without over-explaining, without guilt, without an existential crisis.
How to Copy It:
- Practice saying “No, thanks!” and then shutting up. (No extra justifications required.)
- Remember: People who love you won’t stop loving you because you have boundaries. If they do? They were using you anyway.
- Schedule in “me time” like it’s a doctor’s appointment, non-negotiable.
3. They Don’t Let Instagram Ruin Their Lives
Nothing ruins a good mood faster than scrolling through your feed and realizing that everyone except you is on vacation, in love, or somehow glowing like a glazed donut in golden-hour lighting.
The Struggle:
You wake up, check Instagram, and immediately spiral. How is SHE on a yacht? Who paid for that vacation? Why does her boyfriend look like he was sculpted by Greek gods? Meanwhile, you’re just here… existing.
The Happy People Move:
Happy people know that social media is mostly a highlight reel. They don’t compare their behind-the-scenes mess to someone else’s curated perfection.
How to Copy It:
- Limit your scrolling time. (Seriously, your mental health depends on it.)
- Remind yourself: Comparison is the thief of joy. And honestly? Half of those “perfect” relationships and bodies are held together by Facetune and fake smiles.
- If an account makes you feel bad about yourself, unfollow. Protect your peace like it’s your full-time job.
4. They Laugh at Their Own Mess
Life is weird. People are weird. You are weird. And happy people? They EMBRACE it. Instead of cringing at their past mistakes, they find the humor in them.
The Struggle:
You still lose sleep over that awkward thing you said in 2017. You obsess over every little embarrassment, replaying it like a broken record in your head.
The Happy People Move:
Happy people treat life like one big sitcom. They mess up, they laugh it off, they move on. They don’t take themselves too seriously, and they sure as hell don’t let embarrassment hold them hostage.
How to Copy It:
- Next time you feel embarrassed, ask yourself: Will this even matter in a year?
- Tell your embarrassing story to a friend as if it’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened. (Spoiler: It probably is.)
- Remember: EVERYONE has cringe moments. The trick is to own them like they were on purpose.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need to be born with an inner glow or have life magically figured out to be happy. You just need to start acting like a happy person, even when you don’t feel like it yet. Fake it till you make it, babe.
And if all else fails? At least pretend to be unbothered. Trust me, it works wonders.
Now, go forth and be your happiest, most unhinged, most IDGAF self. You deserve it.
