Alright, girl. Let’s have some real talk. You have dreams, right? Huge, sparkly, world-changing dreams that light up your soul like a neon sign? But instead of chasing them, you’re sitting there, overthinking, stress-eating, and watching your goals float away like a sad little balloon.
WHY? Because fear has you in a chokehold.
Well, guess what? It’s time to break free. Fear is a scam, and you’ve been falling for it. No more! Here are four steps to overcome fear and FINALLY follow your dreams before you become that old lady who tells kids, “I could’ve been a superstar, but…” (We don’t want that, do we?)
Step 1: Expose Fear for the Lying Fraud It Is
Picture this: You’re about to do something big. Your heart is racing, palms sweating, and BOOM—fear whispers in your ear, “You’re going to fail. Everyone will laugh. Better stay in your comfort zone where it’s safe.”
LIES. ALL LIES.
Fear is that toxic ex who manipulates you into staying small. It makes things seem 100x worse than they actually are. The truth? The worst that can happen is usually not that bad. You won’t die. You won’t spontaneously combust. You might just feel a little awkward—and guess what? You’ll live.
ACTION STEP:
Write down your biggest fear about chasing your dream. Now, ask yourself: “Is this actually true, or is fear just talking trash?” Most of the time, you’ll realize it’s just an exaggerated nightmare scenario that probably won’t even happen.
Step 2: Embrace the Cringe Phase (Because It’s Inevitable)
You know what’s scarier than failing? NEVER EVEN TRYING.
Look, every successful person was once a cringe-worthy beginner. Your favorite singer? Probably sounded like a dying cat at first. That influencer you admire? Probably had 3 followers and a potato-quality camera at the start. Your idol? They sucked before they got good.
You HAVE to go through the “OMG I’m so bad at this” phase before you reach greatness.
ACTION STEP:
Give yourself permission to be a beginner. Tell yourself: “I am allowed to suck at this. I am allowed to learn. I am allowed to grow.” Then, start. Cringe and all.
Step 3: Stop Waiting for Confidence (It’s Not Coming)
Raise your hand if you’ve ever said, “I’ll go for it when I feel ready.”
Oh honey, I hate to break it to you, but confidence isn’t delivered like an Amazon package. It’s built after you take action, not before.
The first time you do anything, you WILL feel awkward, unsure, and kinda dumb. That’s normal. But the more you do it, the better you get, and the better you get, the more confident you feel. Confidence is a byproduct of action, NOT a prerequisite.
ACTION STEP:
Do the thing scared. Apply for the job scared. Start the business scared. Post the content scared. Just do it while shaking in your boots. You’ll be fine.
Step 4: Set a “Regret Alarm” (Because Future You is Watching)
Fast forward five years. Imagine you’re still stuck in the same place because you let fear win. You’re scrolling through Instagram, watching someone else live your dream, and thinking, “That could’ve been me…”
OUCH. Feel that? That’s the sting of regret.
Regret hurts WAY more than failure. At least failure teaches you something. Regret just sits there, eating away at your soul like an emotional termite.
ACTION STEP:
Set a daily reminder on your phone that says: “Do something today that Future Me will thank me for.” Make a move. Take a step. DO THE THING.
Final Thoughts: Fear Isn’t the Boss of You
Fear has been living in your head rent-free, dictating your life choices like a control freak. Time to evict it. You have one life, girl. One shot. Don’t let fear steal it from you.
So, what are you going to do today? Stay scared? Or take the first messy, terrifying, life-changing step toward your dreams?
Your future self is waiting. Don’t let her down.
